Top 23 Rules on Being A Gentleman

Being a daddy to 4 amazing young ladies, passing down the art of being a gentleman will just have to wait till some young man comes “a callin'” for one of my girls.  And then if they know whats good for them, they may justWILL listen.

The art of being Gentleman is an indeed a learned behavior.

And I will forever remain in the classroom.

My mom and dad were very intentional with me.  From numerous etiquette classes to multiple opportunities to practice gentlemanly behaviors, I knew early on that a real man was a gentle man. They regularly called me a gentleman, so I’ve always had something to live up to.  It’s amazing how our words of expectation can set the course for a lifetime.

Here are a few collective suggestions from those that have perfected this art beyond me, plus a few of my own.  Of course, the obvious rules to be a gentleman are assumed and not mentioned (opening doors, allowing others to go before you, etc).

The list is far from complete, but every list should include the following:

  • Find a good tailor.
  • Your shoes are a reflection of you.  You need more than one pair!
  • Wear a belt. It’s called underwear for a reason.
  • Barnes & Noble and should be your best friends.
  • Try not to go straight to the sports section of the newspaper.
  • Watch the news, preferably more than one channel. Suggestions: FOX News.
  • Don’t just talk the talk.
  • Look people in the eyes when you greet them and shake their hand, firmly.
  • Take criticism with an open mind. You can improve from listening to superiors and by changing your actions to serve them. Don’t mess with the pack order—it’s there for a reason.—A. Matthews
  • Be on time to meetings—early if you can.  Five minutes early is five minutes late.
  • In meetings, don’t hold conversations at the same time someone else is speaking. Let the person finish his point before giving yours.
  • In meetings, earn the right to speak up.
  • Don’t talk down to coworkers, including subordinates. You may be above them in rank, but as a human being, you’re on a level playing field.
  • Don’t be afraid to share the spotlight in your workplace. Rather than being self-centered, work together with somebody of equal ambition. You don’t always have to be in the front seat—the backseat is cool.
  • At a restaurant, let women order food first, and stand up when a woman leaves the table.
  • Avoid the use of expletives, especially in the presence of a woman you’re trying to impress.
  • Always put your napkin in your lap at dinner. Stuffing it in your shirt is grounds for getting slapped.
  • Caveman behavior at the dinner table isn’t good. Use utensils, avoid chewing with your mouth open, and don’t leave a messy plate.
  • When eating out, always tip more than 20 percent. Waiters live off of customers’ kindness. And you don’t want to make other people at your table reach into their pocket to cover your cheapness.
  • Treat older women as if they were your own mother.—C. Mathis
  • Always have a woman walk on the inside of the sidewalk and on the side of parked cars in a parking lot, basically using your body as a barrier from harm.
  • Brush your teeth, gargle or have a breath mint before getting up close and personal.
  • Invest in a hair trimmer.  Eyebrows, ears, nose – trim down Sasquatch

Us fellas have so much to learn, but you princesses deserve our best effort.  Lord help us…..


7 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Leonard on December 29, 2009 at 2:24 PM

    I am a gentleman after all. I passed. Good to read your post again. How are things?

  2. Hi Leonard! I always knew you were….

    Miss you and your fam. I am doing good. Happy New Year!

  3. Posted by Mom on December 29, 2009 at 8:10 PM

    You are the best!

  4. Posted by Jeff on December 29, 2009 at 9:15 PM

    Hmmm, do they sell shoes and trimmers at The Men’s Warehouse?

  5. Posted by Tim on January 6, 2010 at 4:07 PM

    Good words Roy! I’ll be sure to have my son (2 yrs. old) read it ASAP! 🙂

  6. Posted by LittleQ on January 8, 2010 at 11:17 AM

    I printed this out as a checklist! You Rock Mr. Roy!

  7. Posted by deb on February 9, 2010 at 6:52 AM

    I have 3 little boys that i homeschool, 11, 9 and 5… and i was looking for some rules on ettiquette…



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